6/25/2015

Self-worth

“By what merit?” He asked me.

And I stared at him, wide-eyed, scanning his face for answers.

Yet, I knew the answer to that question.

I knew who I was – in a simple sense: I was a girl with a very big heart.

A very big heart, ready and hoping to find that one person I could show it to.

“I’ll shower you with love!” I answered, proudly.

“But love doesn’t pay bills, honey,” he tutted.

And of course he was right. As always.

“Well, we would work, of course! But I’m offering you a lifetime of support and care and-“

“There’s more to life than that,” he interjected, clearly not seeing eye-to-eye with me.

We stared at each other in silence for a while and I felt the disconnect settle in.

I scanned his stoic face again as a wave of heat washed over me.

“Why are you being so stubborn?” I mustered, my anger leaking.

“You will understand one day,” he said.

And then he turned on his heel and walked away.

2/13/2015

[FF] My Favourite Minimalist YouTubers

On my post yesterday, I shared with you the beginning of my journey to become a Minimalist. Today, I will share YouTubers who have helped influence and inspire me.

Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus (The Minimalists)
Photo from TheMinimalists.com

These guys are the pioneers of the Minimalist lifestyle. There is no mentioning of Minimalism without talking about these two fine gentlemen.

Millburn and Nicodemus understand that Minimalism is a hard concept to put into action and may not be embraced by some. They found that after achieving the things their younger selves aimed to achieve, like having a high paying job, buying that dream car, buying that dream house, there was a void that could not be filled with simply accumulating more things. They realized life was more than just owning and left their corporate careers to chase their dreams of becoming authors and motivational speakers.

In addition to giving interviews and talks on Minimalism around the world, they have written multiple books on the subject.


Coco (LightbyCoco)

Photo from LightbyCoco's Twitter page
This girl puts the minimal in Minimalism.

I'll admit the first time I watched through all her videos (yes, all), my jaw (and so did my boyfriend's jaw) dropped to the floor at how little she owned. I will never de-clutter and purge to the extent that this woman has, but her lifestyle is incredibly inspirational.

Her YouTube channel and blog provides tips and advice for anyone planning to pursue Minimalism. She has replaced clutter and excess with a strong focus on her dream career, travelling, and building relationships with the people around her.

One of the most inspirational things about Coco is that her and her husband both adopted the Minimalist way. They taught me (indirectly) tips on how I should approach my relationship with my significant other and this idea of Minimalism has brought many a good discussion points between the two of us.


Cynthia (Inspiroue)
Photo from Inspiroue's Google+

Relatively new to the Minimalist game, Cynthia is how I wish I was as a young student. I am still a student now, but I wish Cynthia was around for me when I was younger.

Cynthia's channel focuses mainly on fashion and the concept of Capsule Wardrobes. She inspires me to focus on pieces of clothing that last and to walk away from clothing that may be fashionable at the time but may not translate (or last) years down the road. Quality is always better than quantity.


Aileen Xu (Lavendaire)

Photo from Lavendaire's blog
This girl is just a big ray of sunshine whenever a new video appears on my YouTube feed.

Aileen lives a Minimalist lifestyle and motivates me to save my money to travel and explore the world. In her daily life, she aims not to compromise fun in light of spending less.

She posts videos that not only inspire others to be a Minimalist, but she teaches us that the best way to achieve happiness is to start with oneself. Loving yourself and honing your creativity are just some of the ways Aileen teaches us to improve our lives. Truly inspirational!


I hope you like my shares for this week and that you check out these YouTubers' channels! Have a fantastic weekend!

2/12/2015

[TT] Why I Want To Be A Minimalist


I was raised in an Asian household that believed that it was better to have than to not have. Although this is not a bad mantra to have, it also means that there is a propensity for my family to...hoard. One item came with a back up item, another item was kept purely because my parents could predict a possible use for it, when in reality, the chances of us actually using the item was slim.

Material items take up space. A lot of material items take up a lot of space. It started to become difficult to keep track of the things. Often, we bought more things thinking that we didn't have them. Valuables became excess, excess became mess.

I don't know when I began to realize that the mess and the excess was affecting me psychologically. I started to feel claustrophobic and like nothing was ever tidy enough or clean enough. This was when I decided I needed to purge some stuff.

In my search for motivation to purge, I found the idea of Minimalism. Inspired by Joshua Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus, I realized that there was happiness to be found in freedom, especially freedom from putting too much emphasis on material goods. Alternatively, happiness should not come from owning a lot of stuff, but from finding meaning from what we do. I found that, personally, I could not find value in having too much clutter. (Read more about Minimalism here.)

I found that embracing the idea of minimalism influenced my decisions greatly, from walking away from something I previously would have said "I need this in my life" to motivating me to save money for experiences that I would otherwise never have if I had spent my money on material things.

This is only the beginning of my journey towards Minimalism, and although I will never become a hardcore Minimalist, like some, I can already see the benefits of the lifestyle.

2/05/2015

[TT] Is It Okay To Not Know Everything?


"What the ****?"
"How could you not know that?"
"You're so stupid."
"Did you not go to school or something?"

Raise your hand if you've had anyone say any of the above or anything similar to you, 
or if you've ever said any of the above to another person.

My question for this Thought Thursday is whether it's really okay to not know things...or everything. In my short and sheltered life, I have come across situations where me or another knew little, or did not know at all, about something.

Take for example a friend of mine (apologies for not asking permission before disclosing this) who was stumped during a conversation about the Holocaust. He stopped the conversation to ask, "what's the Holocaust?" To which there was a brief silence before people, including myself, responded with things like, "you're joking, right," a few eye-rolls and a few sarcastic chuckles, followed by "how could you not know what the Holocaust is?"

Similarly, I was in a group discussion in school when I took an educated guess in response to a question. While the other members nodded at my participation, one group member interjected and ridiculed me for coming up with an answer that-she claimed-was not remotely close to being correct. That response not only made me angry, but diminished my spirit to engage in the discussion.

The issue is not that my friend did not know what the Holocaust was (because his school did not cover it as extensively as some) or whether my answer to the question was incorrect, but how people responded to it.

Have we come to an era in which it's okay to be judged or ridiculed for not knowing something? Have we already forgotten that people come from different walks of life and that what we know may not be what others know?

I have definitely learned to think twice before judging another person when they have answered a question incorrectly or asked about something they genuinely knew little or nothing about. What about you?

1/09/2015

[FF] My (Current) Favourites List


Hey all. Just felt like doing one of these lists to keep a record of my favourites of the now, so here we go!

Favourite thing to do when I’m nervous: bite my lip
Favourite children’s book: Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll
Favourite author: Pablo Neruda...poet's count right?
Favourite food topping: sour cream
Favourite soda: Coca Cola
Favourite Starbucks drink: Extra hot skinny Hazelnut Macchiato
Favourite class in college:  a Criminology course I took on professional misconduct
Favourite holiday: Halloween
Favourite cereal: Captain Crunch
Favourite cookie: Oatmeal raisin
Favourite song: Keane - Somewhere Only We Know
Favourite positive affirmation: "You have a divine right to be happy."
Favourite book: Phantom by Susan Kay
Favourite country: Canada
Favourite state of mind: feeling needed
Favourite character: Johji Koizumi from Paradise Kiss
Favourite cartoon: Paradise Kiss (anime/manga)
Favourite breakfast food: toast with honey
Favourite beverage: coffee
Favourite tropical fruit: durian
Favourite TV series: Sherlock
Favourite animal: kittens, in general.
Favourite utensil: chopsticks
Favourite vegetable: Chinese pea shoots
Favourite album: Kings of Suburbia by Tokio Hotel
Favourite board game: Telestrations
Favourite cheese: Bra cheese
Favourite sleeping position: on my stomach
Favourite romantic moment: when my bf and i made our relationship official
Favourite stress reliever: drinking coffee
Favourite life accomplishment: getting into my current school program
Favourite hero/heroine: Rorschach from Watchmen
Favourite villain: Malificent from Disney's Sleeping Beauty
Favourite day of the week: Saturday
Favourite actor: Benedict Cumberbatch
Favourite actress: Tina Fey
Favourite movie director: Baz Luhrmann


Feel free to take this list and complete them yourself in the comments below! I'd love to hear what some of your favourite things are!